Have you seen those videos or post where people would recite what they would tell their younger selves? They would share what they wish someone would have told them in their younger days or what they wish they would’ve know back then, so that they wouldn’t have to go though as much over the years.
I never really thought about what I think I would have needed to hear as my younger self until recently. In this new season, I have done a lot of reflection. I have taken some inventory of my life. I have thought about the most past recent events that I have encountered, where I am currently in life, and how I feel about it all. During my reflection, I have realized that one of the biggest things, or mental blockages that I have had all along, is the need to release full control. I can admit that I have a control issue. I hate the idea of the unknown, I hate not being able to control things that happen in my life, I hate not having full understanding of things and I can say that this issue of control has impacted my life in many way. Control has caused me anxiety; That anxiety has lead to procrastination; And procrastination has stopped me from money opportunities, placing my business on hold, and not exploring other opportunities.
This is what I would tell my younger self:
Babygirl, God has plans for you. You have purpose in life and the beauty of life is to enjoy the journey of it all. You won’t always understand everything; you won’t always understand why people say or do things; You won’t always have control of what happens in your life, but what you DO have control of, is what YOU do. You only have control over what you do in this life. You are in control of your thoughts, your actions, and your words. The bible says for us to trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5). And for sure, a lot of things that occur around us, we will never understand; That is where our faith in God comes in. God tells us to cast all of our worries on to him(1 Peter 5:7). He has NEVER steered you wrong; He has always made a way for you. He has your best interest at heart. There is promise on your life and God has called you to do great things.
Earlier this week I did a 3 day fast. I fasted from food and liquids, and I prayed very intentionally, although it wasn’t done perfectly but I stuck it through. The purpose of my fast was to get back aligned with God. Not that I don’t communicate with him daily and often, sometimes you have to dedicate more time to him and I felt that I had fallen off a bit. I always wanted to gain some clarity in some areas. I can say that after completing that fast, I honestly feel really good. There were times where I felt that I wasn’t hearing God clearly. I felt like I wasn’t getting any direction, but this time, I felt that I was hearing him. I felt that he was confirming things for me and I felt that I was able to see his works more clearly.
During my fast I made a declaration to God. I told God that I release ALL control of my life, in all areas of my life. I was tired of doing things my way and was ready to fully commit to his way. When I did that, I have experienced SO much peace over the past few days. Like it feels unreal at times. There is no other peace, like the Peace of God. The bible says that For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of peace, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV). And I have felt all of those things. I have seen God move so much in a few days. Control, is nothing but fear. And you can’t have fear and faith at the same time.
So my message to you is, release control. It’s only much that you can control in life, and that is you. You only have control of what you say, think, and do. Once you release control, you will have a new level of peace. When things are wrong, the issue is already there. So focus less on the issue, and think about what it is that you can actually control in the situation now that it is present. A lot of times we get stuck and can’t progress forward in life because we are holding on to things that we have no control over. We get stuck in a mindset or thought pattern, but you don’t have to stay there. You are in control of your thoughts. Your thoughts can control what you say or do next.
So, take some time to take inventory on all areas in your life. Identify the things, and areas that you may need to release control over; That can be your love life, your finances, your career, etc. What I can tell you for sure, is that you will start to feel peace.
So declare with me today: “I release ALL control of every area of my life”.
I hope you really mean it. Lol
Tell me, what are you releasing control over? What would you tell your younger self?